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  • 07 Jul 2019 3:16 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    By Marilyn Warlick

    Through the years with the FCM community, I have seen my relationship with selfless service develop as my meditation practice develops.  

    While from the outside, the “to do” lists appear the same, over the years the very same tasks have grown into a flowering of joyful efforts and from heartfelt gratitude now comes a desire to give. 

    Now this may seem a superficial statement.

    How can computer work from home or making the drive to the meditation center for meetings, or selfless service on work days grow into flowers of joyful efforts?  I find mindful experiences offer a cumulative effect of touching my practice and life deeply. 

    FCM selfless service, for me, began upon my arrival in Tampa from North Carolina in 2012 to help clean and remodel our newly purchased practice center. I had practiced with FCM for many years through distance membership and brief retreats. Now Sam

    and I were living on the grounds with the community 24/7! 

    Helping with this new beginning was exciting; however, I was also seeing familiar mental afflictions of “fitting in,” “getting it right,” or “seeming competent.” The second arrow, “but this is a mindfulness community, so I should not be having these afflictions rise?!” of course added to the energy of the doubts and anxious thoughts.  

    Developing a mindfulness practice within a community made a big difference for my life. This community of brothers and sisters were all aspiring to cultivate mindfulness energies and use practices such as working gathas and mindful breathing to nourish wellbeing for all of us, including myself. The joy that also arose in these first days and months was quite amazing. 

    So this mixture of joy and suffering in these early months was interesting, and I wanted to learn more.  

    For example, as I began to learn to invite the bell, I saw familiar afflictions rise -- my desire to be seen as competent and appreciated.  But this time, this effort to learn a new skill was in the light of mindfulness and of a community supporting awareness. As a result, increasingly these afflictions were actually seen as “friends rising.” I could gaze with mindfulness and come to know these afflictions. In sharing our experiences as brothers and sisters, I could gaze in a much more friendly light of mindfulness upon these familiar companions in life.

    As we all gave time and energies to cleaning, helping with various events at the new center, I had the opportunity to further learn. With any task, stopping, relaxing and calming were key, whether it was inviting the bell, or picking up trash left by the homeless neighbor who slept on the grounds last night. Mental afflictions arose and increasingly dissolved. 

    In the light of mindfulness, these afflictions while seemingly small or petty, actually had been a source of a great deal of suffering over the years.  Now, in a mindfulness community, I could see the risings and learn to sit with and let go of these afflictions around work, acceptance of others, or self-criticisms.  

    As afflictions lost their energy, a rising of gratitude became present and generosity in giving service was energized. I could more clearly see and reflect upon the subtle mental chatter as the years rolled by. This was the chatter that, for decades, I had followed in my work, my relationships, my private time, this non-stop mental chatter.

    Selfless service has helped me learn to be in the moment. The work gathas remind me to come back to just this moment.  The brothers and sisters I spend time with enliven my heart and mind with joy as we share an intention to bring peace to ourselves and peace into our world. This common intention is like fuel in the body-mind to energize actions, try something new, make time in my life for one more task.  

    Earlier in life, taking on tasks would mean becoming so busy in the doing I would forget what I was doing or where I was. Now, selfless service is a welcome opportunity to come back to my breath and practice remembering what I am doing and where I am. I am in the present moment, a beautiful moment. 

    Marilyn Warlick is a member of the Tampa sangha, a retired mental health professional, founder of FCM's Death Cafe, and leads various workshops for FCM.

  • 05 Jul 2019 2:42 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    By Dona Menz

    Our teacher, Fred, spoke to a full house at Asheville Insight Meditation on the Sunday following our retreat at Southern Dharma in June. With little publicity, he drew a crowd of around 40 practitioners and those curious about the practice.

    I invited friends and family after our sangha brother and OI mentor, Ken Lenington, let me know Fred would be speaking. 

    I am always curious to see people’s first impression of Fred. There is something pure and direct that happens, much like the Dharma itself.

    When Fred discovered that his topic for the talk had not been publicized, he did what he does so well and invited the group to ask questions about their practice.

    The first man wore a t-shirt with the name of the sangha and was clearly a dedicated practitioner. Fred spent a few minutes, maybe not more than five, and helped the man turn, look at his awareness and rest there. The man was clearly moved and had the experience, right there and then and … while I certainly cannot speak for him, it felt as though he shifted, that his practice had changed, his experience had changed. I felt my breath catch and my heart open.

    I believe we have all witnessed this in one way or another when Fred works with someone in a group. But for some reason it hit me anew how vital and important this work is – for all of us – and how fortunate we are to have a realized teacher to so beautifully guide us on the path.

    Questions followed and Fred did what he does so well -- answered with clarity and wisdom and no hint of indulgence. My friend chuckled after one exchange and leaned over to whisper, "I like him, he doesn’t take any crap."  I laughed and nodded and felt a curiosity about my teacher, how he teaches like this is his last day or ours, like his hair is on fire, hoping you will have realization, so kindly stopping us in our immersion in obscurations and snapping his fingers with his words: wake up!

    After the talk, other friends commented how much they had enjoyed it and friends who couldn’t make it asked when he would return. There is such a beautiful desire for the Dharma, but especially on this level.  I have never met a teacher like Fred and I could sense from the room that many shared in this knowing.

    But it was my brother whom I was most curious about. He and my sister-in-law, Carlan, our sangha member from Greenville, SC, attended. My brother is curious about many things but has never been drawn to practice. Afterwards, he said he had enjoyed it very much and commented that he liked that Fred didn’t give anyone the answer but let them find their own. Such a beautiful way to describe Fred’s wise style of sharing the Dharma. I join all of you who are in deep gratitude for our teacher Fred.

    Dona Menz is a psychotherapist in Asheville and Hendersonville, NC, who works with clients suffering from trauma, depression, anxiety and addiction.  She follows a spiritual perspective using mindfulness and meditation. She is in FCM's Dharma Transmission Program.

  • 28 Jun 2019 4:51 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    Bill MacMillen of the Tampa Sangha has signed up for a tour of India, "In the Steps of the Buddha - Saal Pilgrimage," November 9-22, 2019, and is advising FCM members and colleagues in the event a group might be formed. Please email Bill at bmacm21@gmail.com if you are interested.

    The tour will visit Bodh Gaya, where the Buddha attained enlightenment; Deer Park at Sarnath, where he gave his first teachings; his favorite meditation places such as Vulture Peak in Rajgir and the Jeta Grove at Sravasti (where he spent 24 rainy season retreats), and Kushinagar, where he passed away. 

    Also, it will visit Lumbini, where he was born, and the palace at Kapilavastu, where he spent his childhood, as well as monasteries, temples and shrines.  The trip includes visits to homes of locals in cities and villages, and a walk to the Dungasiri Mountain (Mahakala Cave) where the Buddha practiced his austerities. 

    At each site, Shantum will tell stories of the Buddha’s life and give teachings to help us understand the Buddha as a human being, the drama of his life and the significance of what he taught.  There will be time for daily sitting and walking meditation, regular discussions and contemplative time.  The creation of a traveling sangha will be an important aspect of this trip, giving the journey a greater cohesiveness and building support for those seeking to deepen their practice.

    The tour maximum is 35 participants, and the cost is $5,950, without air fare. The website (http://www.buddhapath.com/Saal.html) has detailed information.

    Shantuman ordained dharma teacher in the Zen Buddhist lineage of Thich Nhat Hanh, is the foremost expert on sites associated with the Buddha and has been leading pilgrimages since 1988. He has co-authored books such as Walking with the Buddha and been a consultant for films like BBC-Discovery’s Life of the Buddha and BBC-PBS’s The Story of India

  • 22 Jun 2019 6:01 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    Don't Wait to Begin Preparations for This Summer's Hurricane Season

    By Evelyn Haseman
    FCM Sangha Welfare Leader

    The “storms of life” bring us life-changing events such as serious illness, physical injury, death of a loved one, the joy of birth, divorce, hurricanes and tornados -- only a few of the many events that may impact our lives. 

    The sangha offers us support with its collective energy of mindfulness, compassion and lovingkindness. Whenever we find ourselves in a difficult situation, our sangha friends are there for us. Community involvement and caring are components of our compassionate sangha culture. 

    Hurricane season can bring one of those “storms of life.” June is the start of hurricane season. We hope all of our FCM Sangha practitioners will be prepared with a plan in place. 

    Determining where to go if a severe storm approaches is an important part of a plan. After exploring the requirements of sheltering with the Red Cross, we determined that our Practice Center (as with most facilities other than certain public schools built to a very specific code standard) does not qualify as a shelter.  Since we will not be able to offer shelter to our members, this is the time to decide if you will stay home, stay with relatives or friends, or go to a hotel or a public shelter.  

    Most of us are familiar with a storm preparation list, but it is easy to get caught off guard and find ourselves looking for supplies when shelves are empty. You can ease your mind by preparing ahead of time. In addition to a place to go, you will need food, water, lanterns, batteries, medicines and other necessities listed on the national hurricane link, http://www.nws.noaa.gov/om/hurricane/plan.shtml. 
    We recommend that you check the link now.

    The beginning of hurricane season reminds us to think of others and how to offer assistance. When we find ourselves in a difficult situation, sangha friends can help us stay in the present moment. We can offer support by being present for each other. Whether it is a hurricane, tornado, or any kind of physical or mental suffering, we can offer our lovingkindness, compassion and mindfulness. 

    Evelyn Haseman, Sangha Welfare Lead and Tampa Sangha member, facilitates support of FCM members experiencing life-changing events.  She can be reached at sangha-care-leader@floridamindfulness.org.

  • 02 Jun 2019 4:24 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    By Jan Kernis,

    FCM Tampa Member

    In a 2018 wisdom intensive Dharma talk, our teacher, Fred, told us about resting in mindful awareness: "It is best to approach this as if you knew, learned and understood absolutely nothing." 

    The recent workshop, Buddhist Wisdom on Death and Dying," emphasized the "don't know mind" of which Fred spoke was the wise and compassionate approach to the process of death and dying -- both our own death and that of others.  It was clear that the fundamental Buddhist teachings of mindful awareness that we learn and practice at FCM to eliminate our suffering in daily life are also those helping us at death. 

    What made this workshop valuable for me was the completeness of the offering: its supportive atmosphere, reflections and guided meditations, poetry, Dharma, practicality, references and opportunities for experience, healing and transformation. 

    The workshop had a guided meditation to help us look at how our priorities shifted as we saw our time of death become closer.  Daily busy-ness and “to do” lists dropped away as death was imminent. 

    We reviewed some common aversions and anxieties of death and how Buddhist understandings can help us think about them. Much as we try, "magical" thinking that "death doesn't apply to me" is not reality. The Parable of the Mustard Seed was offered to shed light:  Kisa Gotami, grieving the loss of her baby, learned from Buddha's skillful teaching as she went from house to house in search of a family untouched by death, that life ends for all living beings. The Five Remembrances and Nine Contemplations were shared and seen as part of daily practice to keep this awareness and presence fresh. 

    A reminder that “our attitude is our freedom” was offered to suggest to us to find meaning and purpose in being, no matter the circumstances. In view of the loss of control faced at death, what attitude can we cultivate now in preparation for our death and those of our loved ones? We learned that Buddhism advises us to go toward adversity, as in Lojong saying to use adversity as a path of transformation and awakening. As Thay says, "Hello, anger, my friend." We were shown how to use Tonglen, a Lojong practice, to help transform pain and afflictive emotions.

    There were meditations that structured opportunities for us to look deeply beneath the surface of our “cultured” responses and to gently and safely reveal our fears and insights of death and dying. The dissolution of the story of fear of pain at death that I had been telling myself created space for compassion and understanding to flow to others. I was able to see how much suffering I had been causing myself, a reminder that deep openness of awareness to impermanence and death are the key features of life as well.

    We were reminded that "we are going to the Mystery" and, with reference to Frank Ostaseski, founder of the Zen Hospice Project in San Francisco, "This is not like an Agatha Christie mystery where we investigate and find out who did it in the end."  While the mind thinks it's got it all together, be ready, it's going to be a surprise, and the best preparation is being able to be with awe and wonder, grow in confidence and trust of the process, and rest in mindful awareness.

    The point was made that our practice has deep purpose in death as well as in life -- familiarizing us with our natural awareness, our "don't know mind," our presence in each moment. This familiarity mitigates the panic and fear at death (as it does in life). The reality is that we do not know how we will react. The whole is a mystery -- life and death --  and it is the practice of remembering to rest in our awareness and becoming familiar with this that enables us to be truly present with compassion and wisdom.

    The profound Dharma teachings, the mystery of life and death that we are, as presented in this workshop, point to the essential Buddhist teachings on emptiness, the "don't know mind," resting in our awareness, that we have been cultivating in our daily practice and intensives at FCM. I left feeling at home, at greater ease with death, and with deep gratitude for this offering by our Dharma sister and brother Marilyn Warlick and Alex Lerner, with profound inspiration from our Dharma teacher Fred.

     Jan Kernis, a member of the FCM Tampa Sangha, is a newly ordained member of the Order of Interbeing.

  • 02 Jun 2019 3:04 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    Thanks to Anda Peterson of St. Petersburg for this lovely poem!

    Tender Work

    Work with what you are


    If you are a fawn

    at dusk

    you will

    stand still as wood

    in a field of tall green grass

    at the edge of a  forest

    your dark eyes wide open 

    watching sparrows

    flit and fly home 

    through the twilight.


    If you are a fawn

    your soft brown ears

    upright will catch sounds

    of wind through the pines.


    If you are a field mouse

    you will

    scurry, slipping between


    fawn hooves.


    If you are a human

    you will

    see the fawn, the pines, the wildflowers

    feel your breath as wind,

    how your heart beats as

    bird, mouse, fawn


    then and only then

    your tender work

    is done.

  • 25 May 2019 8:54 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    Thanks to Wake Up member Gabby Betagglio for this thoughtful article!

    Gabby Betagglio and Gerry Stinnett vacuum meditation cushions at a recent Selfless Service work day.

    I wanted to be more involved in my Wake Up community, so when Bryan Hindert approached me about leading the Selfless Service aspect of Wake Up in the hopes of getting more people involved in doing altruistic work, I accepted his invitation. 

    On my end, I was motivated by the thought of being more involved in a community that I was growing to love and to become attached to. In other words, it felt a bit selfish -- rather than selfless -- for me at the time. Since then, I have learned that these feelings are normal. Altruism, selfless service, the act of giving is something that can be cultivated. Props to Bryan for that lesson. 

    Just because the motivation initially isn’t “I want to be of service to others” does not mean that it cannot eventually become that. So long as our intention is to be more altruistic, more grateful, more geared towards thinking of others rather than ourselves, practicing at events such as the work morning will cultivate that virtue inside of us. At least, that is what I have noticed for myself. 

    At first glance, I can’t say that I am ecstatic about thinking about others before myself. This is because I have personal goals, I am constantly feeling like there isn’t enough time to do what I want and the thought of giving my time on a Saturday morning definitely clashes with a lot of my motivations. But if I think about it…thinking about myself too much causes me suffering. It really does. 

    Of course, goals are important and I will continue to work towards reaching them. However, I have found that these work mornings help grow an essential quality that I wish for myself…an altruistic quality that will, among many other things, benefit my mind and nourish my life. 

    To talk a bit about the actual time spent at the selfless service mornings…let’s just say there is a curve. During the morning meditation and group powwow to decide the day’s jobs, I feel peaceful and grateful to be there, healthy, on a Saturday morning. 

    Then the work begins. It begins, and so does my mind. Thoughts about what else I could be doing pop up. Sometimes even anger! “Why am I here? I need ‘me’ time after the long week I had at work! This isn’t fair!” All sorts of thoughts… “I should be cleaning my own house. I should be doing the thing that I have been avoiding for months anyway…”  All of this comes up as if on cue when the work begins. 

    I don’t have much to say about it except that the reality is that these work mornings last three hours and no more…and really, there is much more to be gained than there is to complain about. 

    So, I will say a bit about how, again, Bryan, suggested I deal with this yuckiness. 

    One way is by shifting my perception. Instead of hanging out in anxiety-world as described above, I, we, can think about how much others will benefit from the work that we are doing. How people will come to the beautiful center, beautiful in part because of our work, and maybe even transform their lives. 

    Another way is to shift the mind toward gratefulness. “I am so grateful to be here with my community. Not everyone has a loving community such as this. I am working, and so is everyone else around me. They care for me and want peace and happiness for me just as for themselves.” 

    So those are strategies that I have recently learned and I am looking forward to using at the next work morning I attend. 

    Going back to the curve, after the work finishes we have our closing circle.  That is where all the gratefulness and bliss sets in. I truly enjoy this time, sharing about my experience with everyone else while sipping tea and enjoying some healthy snacks. 

    Here is where it’s obvious to see that we are not just working…we are doing much more that is of huge benefit to ourselves. The altruistic act of doing service is of benefit to ourselves. Just had to reiterate that, in case you, like me, need the reassurance. :) 

  • 20 May 2019 2:12 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    By Angie Parrish

    FCM Executive Director 

    Fred and I recently returned from a wonderful week of practice and connection with both the Zen Center of Oregon (ZCO) and the Oregon Community of Mindful Living. 

    In this article, I’ll share about our experience with ZCO, with a follow up article about the Community of Mindful Living.

    Heart of Wisdom Temple, Portland OR

    By way of background, several years ago Fred reconnected with Roshi Hogen Bays, a Dharma brother from the early 1970s at the Rochester Zen Center (RZC).

    Both left RZC as young men in their 20s, and although each followed his own spiritual and personal path, their lives today are similar in that both Fred and Roshi Hogen have founded and now lead Buddhist communities. Seeing the benefit to both communities of sharing teachings and experience, each enthusiastically invited the other to visit and teach at his Dharma center. 


    As a result, Roshi Hogen visited the Florida Community of Mindfulness (FCM) in March for a week of talks, a weekend retreat, and informal get-togethers with various members of our community. Those of us who had the opportunity to hear and interact with Roshi Hogen were touched by his teachings and his generosity in sharing his years of experience in creating the Zen Center of Oregon, which includes both an urban Heart of Wisdom Zen Buddhist Temple in Portland and the Great Vow Zen Monastery in rural Clatskanie.

    In turn, Fred and I were invited to visit the Zen Center of Oregon (ZCO) this month, where Fred shared his Dharma wisdom in many creative ways and we had a very rich exchange of experience with Roshi Hogen and his community.


    Visit to ZCO’s Urban Heart of Wisdom Temple

    We began our visit at ZCO’s Heart of Wisdom Temple in Portland, where we participated in meditation followed by Fred offering aDharma talk to ZCO’s lay community. As with FCM, there was a mix of ages and experience, and the audience engaged with Fred around several topics related to the Seven Points of Mind Training.

    At the annual meeting held by ZCO’s Board of Directors and membership, we enjoyed hearing about their programs, community and plans, both for Heart of Wisdom Temple and Great Vow Monastery. 


    While ZCO follows many traditional Japanese forms in terms of meditation and chanting, we learned that their programs are very similar to FCM’s in many respects. For example, they place strong emphasis on the Buddhist precepts, setting aspirations, developing concentration, practicing the Four Immeasurables, mindful eating, and more.

    And, similar to FCM, their community is nurtured and supported largely by selfless service from many warm and dedicated lay individuals.


    Visit to Great Vow Monastery

    After several days in Portland we traveled to Great Vow Zen Monastery, ZCO’s residential community of lay and ordained people engaged full time in Buddhist practice. The practice heritage of the monastery is the Soto/Rinzai lineage of Taizan Maezumi, Roshi. 


    Great Vow offers residencies, retreats, and workshops that are open and available to everyone. The monastery was created 20

    years ago through the purchase and conversion of a discontinued public elementary school, and is located 80 miles northwest of Portland on twenty forested acres overlooking the Columbia River flood plain.

    It includes a large meditation hall, guest and resident dormitories, dining hall, and a large organic vegetable garden. Within the forest is Great Vow's famous Jizo Garden, a memorial garden for people who have died, and the newly dedicated Shrine of Vows, a place where people leave tokens of their deep aspirations.


    Roshi Hogen and his wife, Roshi Jan Chozen Bays, are the spiritual directors and head teachers of the monastery with teaching assistance from other ZCO teachers, both lay and ordained. Roshi Chozen is a physician and has written a number of highly regarded books on various aspects of mindfulness and Buddhism, including two books that we have used for FCM classes and practices: Mindful Eating, and The Vow-Powered Life


    During our stay at Great Vow, we were able to fold into the daily practice and routine of the ZCO residential community. There are currently 13 women and men in residence – mostly in their 20s and 30s – with a daily schedule of silent meditation (“zazen”), chanting, Buddhist study, work practice and community living. The experience of this group ranges from lay members who are exploring this path to fully ordained Zen priests. 


    Great Vow conducts at least one seven- to ten-day retreat (“sesshin”) per month in the monastery’s formal Zen tradition. When not in sesshin, each day typically begins with wake-up bells at 4:50 am, followed by zazen, chanting, temple cleaning and breakfast, which is often in the Oryoki tradition. Many of you may be unaware of what Oryoki means. Often translated as “just the right amount,” Oryoki is a highly choreographed ritual of serving and eating food. It was certainly a new experience for me, and despite a few “I love Lucy” moments, with the help of the residents I participated in and enjoyed this ritual, which also is a very efficient way and non-wasteful way of feeding a large group of people. 


    Work periods and short chanting services continue throughout the day, with zazen and chanting closing the day. We also were treated to a lovely soft chant by the residents when they performed “lights out and closing rounds” each evening at 10 pm. 


    During our time with Roshi Hogen, Roshi Chozen and the residents, Fred and I had a number of very interesting and meaningful exchanges about the development of Buddhism in America. Over the past five or so years, Great Vow has invited teachers in other traditions to lead retreats on topics such as Dzogchen and Mahamudra. As well, more secular teachers such as Byron Katie have conducted workshops and retreats on topics that are often related to emotional healing. 


    The group was very interested in the three-path developmental model that Fred has created for FCM, and there was a rich discussion around the inclusion of teachings from different lineages and traditions within one community.


    Our stay at Great Vow was both very simple and powerful for me. With no outside distractions and such a strong container for practice, one can appreciate the capacity for deepening that is offered by monastic living. And, being a practitioner who lives in the wider world of beings, I am very happy to bring the fruits of this experience back to our lovely lay community at FCM.

  • 05 May 2019 6:24 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    Seeing the Knot as One Thread at a Time Was Helpful

    By Ellen Oberlin

    From the moment I signed up for the Untying Anger workshop I was thrust into awareness of anger arising.

    I was feeling smug about having enrolled myself and my husband, David, in the workshop, thinking I was finally going to get a handle on the anger thing. 

    That feeling didn’t last long as I quickly received an email detailing the homework. Homework, my mind reacted?  I felt exhausted just from confronting the issue enough to have signed up for the workshop! I thought I wouldn't have enough data in the log we were asked to do regarding our anger since it was only two days until the workdhop.

    Not so, I was surprised at the multitude of opportunities I had to log my annoyance, irritation, frustration and plain anger in so short a time even over insignificant things. It seemed I was on the anger spectrum for long stretches of time. That alone was a big wakeup call.  

    I had known this was true, but seeing it in black and white on the log made it undeniable. I could no longer pretend.  

    I had managed to not entirely coerce my husband into doing the workshop with me by asking that it be considered my birthday celebration. What better way to have a lasting positive effect on our lives than to gain a framework we could work with together?  He agreed although I didn’t think he would join me since he is not an FCM member.

    Once we got to the workshop I felt ill at ease because David was there with me. I noticed worry arising about how his experience would be. Noticing it, I was able to let go because I knew from past experience that I would later find myself having missed the workshop if I didn’t let go.   

    Betsy Arizu and Bill MacMillen, the facilitators, were great oceans of calm for me.  They had us work in experiential exercises with someone we didn’t come with at first. What a relief to me, since David and I had been dealing with anger arising, often unskillfully, for over 30 years. We didn’t have to jump right into the deep end.  

    The course, designed by Angie Parrish, was well thought out and proceeded methodically to look calmly at the issue of anger.  I wanted to jump right in to “what to do,” so I had the opportunity to practice patience, a vital skill for dealing with anger, from the beginning of the workshop.  

    I also felt great support from the other attendees in the workshop. They looked normal, not someone you’d think had an “anger problem,” and I felt my heart opening to our collective courage to confront this challenge head on.  Most spoke quite frankly about the pain they’d suffered surrounding their experiences of anger.  

    One thing I won’t forget about this workshop is the slide Betsy showed with a knot of threads enlarged to show that there were distinct threads within.  

    That knot is how anger felt in my heart; it really resonated with my experience.  

    So, I could relax and trust that this path had a way to sort out the strands and untangle my feelings successfully.  

    I won’t attempt a summary but will end instead by expressing my deep gratitude to the entire Sangha for their contribution to me and my husband as we work to engage more skillfully with each other and the world.

    Thanks to Ellen Oberlin for sharing her experience in this important workshop!

  • 23 Mar 2019 3:10 AM | Anonymous member (Administrator)

    Thirty people joyously received transmission of trainings at three different levels March 17 at FCM's Tampa Center and made vows to follow the path toward compassion and awakening.  

    "Today the community has gathered to give support to those who will vow to go for refuge to the Three Jewels and receive and practice the Two Promises, Five Mindfulness Trainings, and the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings," our teacher Fred told the three groups.  

    "You have had the chance to learn about and observe the way of understanding and love that has been handed down to us by teachers over many centuries," he said.

    Ten senior aspirants received transmission of the 14 Mindfulness Trainings in preparation for ordination to become members of the Order of Interbeing (OI) community, 17 persons received the 5 Mindfulness Trainings, and three young people made the Two Promises.

    The Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings of the Order of Interbeing are expanded ethical guidelines that the members of the Order take as their aspirational lodestar for a life of understanding and compassion, the life of a bodhisattva dedicated to relieving suffering. 

    Receiving OI transmission were Brandy Kidd of Naples, Chris Lee-Nguyen of Fort Myers, Beth Schroeder of Naples, Jan Kernis of Tampa, Diana Fish of St. Petersburg, Evelyn Haseman of Temple Terrace, Eleanor Cecil of Tampa, Lindsey McCaskey of Naples, Tony Pollitt of Naples and Maria Sgambati of Tampa.

    Their next step will be to receive full ordination later this year from monastics at one of the Plum Village centers in the U.S. or at Plum Village in France. At that point, they may wear the brown jackets signifying the humility of service to FCM, the Plum Village community and to sentient beings everywhere.

    In addition to the OI aspirants, 17 students took the Five Mindfulness Trainings as a public commitment to taking refuge in the Buddha, the Dharma and the Sangha.  

    They were Bobb Hart, John Renner, Tracy Walter, Dana Mooney, Allon Bell, Maggie Tudor, Rita Greenspan, Misti Oxford-Pickeral, Teresa MatassiniFernandez, Ellen Mefford, Raven Dreifus-Kofron, Scott Nissensohn, Courtney (Cici) Claar, Mary Periard, and Jose F. Rodriguez, all of the Tampa Sangha; and Noreen Haines and Sheila Ludwig, both of the Naples Sangha.

    Three children/young people renewing the Two Promises were Sophia Cabra-Lezama, Emmy Stepp and Luke Dluzneski, all of the Tampa Sangha.


    Photo #1:  Fred leads ceremony under watchful gaze of Thay (the Vietnamese word for teacher; Thich Nhat Hanh was Fred's teacher).
    Photo #2:   OI aspirants do prostrations as they receive 14 Mindfulness Trainings. 
    Photo #3:   17 adults receive 5 Mindfulness Trainings, take refuge in the Buddha, Dharma and Sangha, and receive their dharma names. Three young people, front row, left, renew their vows in the Two Promises.                                                                 
    Photo #4:   Fred gives certificate with new dharmname to Jose Rodriguez of Tampa Sangha.        

    Photo #1 is by Nancy Natilson.

    Photos #2, 3 and 4 are by Sam Warlick.             

    Fred, seated, center, leads transmission ceremonies before a packed house, while Bryan Hindert, left, serves as bell master.  OI aspirants are at right.                                                                         

    More than 135 people watch as 30 people receive transmission March 17. 

    Fred explains the dharma foundation of the commitments being made in the ceremonies.  Angie Parrish, FCM executive director, looks on at right.

    Photos #5, 6 and 7 are by Alex Lerner                         


    Big Vows by Young People Challenge Adults
    Three Students Renew Their Commitments

    The Two Promises made by children and teens commit to develop deeper understanding and compassion -- big vows, indeed. 

    One wrote in the application to renew vows that they wanted to renew their promises because they wanted to become a more understanding and compassionate person: "I believe it will help my relationships with people, animals, plants and minerals, and help my meditation practice."

    "I want to have a larger comprehension of understanding and compassion," wrote another.

    "I want to renew my vows to become a better person," wrote the third young adult.  "The promises help me to stay on the path to be patient and grateful."

    As Fred said in the ceremony Sunday, "Go out there and show the adults how it's done!" 


    The students are, from left, Emmy Stepp, Luke Dluzneski and Sophia Cabra-Lezama.                                                                    Photo by Sam Warlick


    New Members Thoughtful About Commitments
    Finding a Sangha, Helping Others Played Big Role

    Two new members, Noreen Haines and Sheila Ludwig, both of the Naples Sangha, were thoughtful about their reasons for taking refuge in the Three Jewels and receiving transmission of the 5 Mindfulness Trainings in a discussion after the ceremony.  Both joined FCM this year.

    "Standing up in front of people and making a commitment to following the path makes it so much more real," Sheila said.  "Also, there was something about the linking of Fred to Thich Naht Hanh that goes all the way back to the Buddha that struck me. They brought out a picture of Thich Nhat Hanh and put it on the altar, and I thought, 'This is kind of big'."

    A retired music teacher who spends part of her year in Naples and the rest in Medina, Ohio, Sheila said she was thrilled to find a sangha that offered community in Naples, where she felt "embraced."  She has searched for a home sangha in Ohio, but hasn't been able to find one, so when she is in Ohio for the summer, she plans to stay connected to FCM during intensives via Zoom and to maintain communications with new sangha friends.

    Sheila has a cousin who is a Soto Zen priest and, for many years, has been discussing Buddhism with him and reading Buddhist books that he recommended, but at FCM, she found "the last jewel," she said.  "I added sangha."

    Noreen, an avid hiker and massage therapist who spends half of her year in Naples and half in Salida, Colorado, said she can't imagine a life without helping others.  She saw joining FCM and committing to the practice as an opportunity to get support while following that purpose.  

    "It was a turning point when I heard Fred say that (Buddhism) is an easier way to live, and I thought that feels very practical.  You need to figure out how to be present and awake and how to communicate to help people, and if somebody can help me understand that, I'm all about it.

    "I found this treasure (at FCM).  Give me a shovel.  I'm all about it. Give me more!"


    OI Provides Core Community Services to FCM
    Building Strong Sangha is Key Role Outlined by Fred

    In a recent talk before the Naples Sangha, Andrew Rock of Tampa, FCM's OI Coordinator, and Nancy Natilson, OI member from Tampa, described the OI program as "connective tissue" that binds the community together.

     Nancy said the brown jackets work by ordained OI members are a symbol of humility, a statement that "we are here to serve you."  OI members perform service tasks of all kinds for the FCM and Plum Village communities, with particular emphasis on sangha building.

    The Order of Interbeing was originally founded by Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay) in Vietnam in 1964 during the Vietnam war to provide support and guidance for a handful of his closest students and associates engaged in providing aid to their suffering people, often at risk of their own lives. Thay reopened membership in the Order 15 years later, and our teacher Fred was among the earliest of the new members. 

    The OI includes both monastics and laypeople, and there are now thousands of members around the world, including 52 aspirants and ordained OI members in FCM, perhaps the largest OI chapter within a sangha in the country. 

    In an informal discussion with the OI group last weekend, Fred described the history of OI, his own involvement with the opening up of the Order in the West and editing of Thay's book, Interbeing, and how he has emphasized OI's development as a "core community" within FCM, which strategically uses its cadre of lay volunteers to offer a wide array of services to its 300 members scattered up and down the west coast of Florida and, increasingly, into farther cities and other states, as well.

    Andrew orchestrated a symphony of OI members and aspirants and coordinated with selfless service volunteers and leaders in the FCM community to produce a retreat that flowed smoothly.  Nancy led the catering operation for the retreat.


    Above, Andrew Rock and Nancy Natilson model symbolic brown jackets. The green ribbons signify membership in the Earth Holders Community, a Buddhist group concerned with issues relating to climate change.                                                                                                         Photo by Carol Green

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